Recollections may vary: Harry and Meghan (Samir Hussein/WireImage)

Truth is harder to dispose of than some people think. To say that there is no truth is already to have stated one, or at least what you take to be one. Yet the idea of truth is a lot less in fashion than it used to be, and there are social and political reasons for this unpopularity.
One of them is individualism. In a society which lacks any strong bonds between its members, everyone is likely to have their own interpretation of the world, just as everyone is likely to have their own toothbrush. You wouldnāt want to borrow someone elseās version of the truth, any more than you would want to borrow their toothbrush. Truth becomes privatised. Itās a matter of my personal experience, and surely no one can challenge that.Ā
In fact, personal experience is as open to debate and dissent as the existence of God. Thereās nothing absolute about it. One of the key insights of the late modern period, before the birth of postmodernism, is the recognition that human beings are constitutively opaque to themselves. āConstitutivelyā, because this lack of self-transparency is built into the kind of animals we are, not just some lamentable self-blindness which we could put right with a little more self-reflection.
When Oedipus in Sophoclesās drama finally comes to know who he is, he recognises that he is a stranger to himself. It has taken incest, parricide, pollution, self-blinding and self-exile to arrive at the conclusion that he has no certain grasp of his own identity, and that this is the condition of us all. There must be easier ways of learning this lesson.Ā
There was a time when we thought that we were transparent to ourselves and that it was others who were indecipherable to us. Nowadays, we tend to accept that we arenāt always in entire possession of our own experience, and that others can sometimes know us better than we know ourselves. Among other things, this is because other people are frequently well-placed to see what we do, and what we do is a surer guide to who we are than what we say or think we are. If someone insists that heās a passionate lover of animals and spends his spare time dissecting live frogs, then he is self-deluded. Itās the beliefs implicit in our behaviour, not those recorded in our memoirs, that really count. If the truth is what we feel, there can be no place for self-deception in human affairs. It simply wouldnāt be possible for a prime minister to declare himself a pretty straight sort of guy, and probably believe it, yet seek to deceive the public about the invasion of Iraq.Ā
So I am no infallible guide to the meaning of my own experience. I thought at the time I was furious, but looking back I realise that I was afraid. Itās true that my experience is beyond doubt in the sense that I really am in agony, and no mistake; but to know that what Iām feeling is agony rather than ecstasy, I must have the concepts of agony and ecstasy, and this isnāt something I can achieve all by myself. I can know this only by belonging to a community whose language includes these notions.
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